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Making the Invisible, Visible
If therapy and Fight Club have a common thread, it's their first rule: don't talk about it. This code works wonders if you're in the loop, but it's less helpful when you're on the sidelines, contemplating whether or not to step into the ring.
Think of these articles as your insider's guide to therapy.
I'll offer you a candid view of my work as a therapist, without sacrificing the sacredness of my client's confidentiality. Like your favorite reality TV show, we'll delve into the highs, lows, and 'pour-the-red-wine' moments of life for women in their 30s and 40s.
I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible world of therapy for women who think their struggles aren't "significant enough", one blog post at a time.
An IFS Therapist Explains: You Don’t Need to Calm Down
You don’t need to be less reactive—you actually need to be better at it.
Some version it always comes up with new clients: “I just want to be less reactive.” Not less hurt. Not less unseen. Just…less reactive.
Sometimes it’s buried under paragraphs of context. Sometimes it’s the whole damn paragraph. Either way, it’s one of the most common reasons my clients cite for starting therapy—the thing they think will make everything feel more manageable.
How to Stop Over-Explaining Your Feelings (And Finally Be Heard)
From the outside, it looks like you’re just trying to communicate - to be understood. But on the inside? You’re frantically trying to outrun the ache of being met with the blank face. The defensive shrug. The moment when you realize you’ve been understood technically—but not felt.
What Faerie Smut Can Teach You About Anger
Anger looks the antagonist in your story - but that's just because you haven't had your Chapter 54 moment.
An IFS Therapist Reacts: Inside Out 2
As an IFS Therapist, I watched Inside Out 2 like a documentary. Pixar captured what IFS therapy reveals: every emotion, even the messy ones, has a role. Here’s why true harmony means giving all your parts a voice—and what Riley’s story teaches us about integration.
Having Feelings About Your Feelings
"Both can be true" - this is a little nugget I offer to clients when they are torn between their feelings and their feelings about their feelings (humans are unique in that way). When we dig into those struggles, most clients describe experiencing a tug-of-war going on inside of them.
3 Things to do When Your Emotions Hijack You
Finding relief when you’ve been hijacked by your emotions is all about nurturing a healthier relationship with your thoughts and feelings.
2020 Sucks
Whenever tragedy strikes or tough times fall, we say things like “We’re all in this together” or “We’re all in the same boat.” But if we’re honest, we are NOT all in the same boat – and we all know it. And, it's your well-being that matters, not the scale of your problems.
