UNFILTERED:
Making the Invisible, Visible
If therapy and Fight Club have a common thread, it's their first rule: don't talk about it. This code works wonders if you're in the loop, but it's less helpful when you're on the sidelines, contemplating whether or not to step into the ring.
Think of these articles as your insider's guide to therapy.
I'll offer you a candid view of my work as a therapist, without sacrificing the sacredness of my client's confidentiality. Like your favorite reality TV show, we'll delve into the highs, lows, and 'pour-the-red-wine' moments of life for women in their 30s and 40s.
I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible world of therapy for women who think their struggles aren't "significant enough", one blog post at a time.
Why are Millennial Women Obsessed with Therapy?
I saw this post from Dr. Becky the other day — the one about how we’ve overcorrected from “kids’ feelings don’t matter” to “kids’ feelings decide everything.” It stopped me.
Dr. Becky (Kennedy), the psychologist behind Good Inside, has become something of a millennial mom whisperer. Her take on parenting isn’t just about raising kids — it’s about how we were raised. And that post, in particular, nailed something I see in almost every millennial woman I work with in therapy - the tension between feelings and boundaries.
What I’ve Learned From the Women Who Always Hold It Together
Most people assume that high-achieving women thrive on tidy kitchens and back-to-back meetings, that they sleep better with a color-coded calendar and a to-do list by the bed.
But that’s just because most people can’t spell. Lucky for them, some high-achieving women will help them out:
Tidy kitchens? That’s R-E-S-P-O-N-S-I-B-I-L-I-T-Y.
Back-to-back meetings? That’s B-E-I-N-G-A-G-R-O-W-N-U-P.
Color-coded calendars? That’s N-E-C-E-S-S-A-R-Y.
To-do lists by the bed? That’s C-O-P-I-N-G..
And thriving? Oh, that one’s easy. It’s spelled S-U-R-V-I-V-I-N-G. Which is exactly why this high-achieving woman is one goldfish cracker away from L-O-S-I-N-G H-E-R S-H-I-T.
What is Eldest Daughter Syndrome?
Can you remember when you first became “the responsible one”? Most women can’t - because there wasn’t one singular moment when they shifted from being cared for to being counted on.
The internet calls it “eldest daughter syndrome”. I call it what happens when a little girl becomes her family’s emotional shock absorber.
What Seven Years of IFS Therapy with Women in St. Louis Has Taught Me
Seven years ago, while in grad school to become a licensed counselor myself, I was sitting across from my therapist, intellectually spiraling about something my husband did: over-explaining, analyzing, looping through every possible angle. You know. Tuesday.
She paused and asked if I’d be willing to try something different. Instead of talking about the frustration, she asked me to speak to it. To listen to it. To let it respond. It was weird. But it also worked.
What Faerie Smut Can Teach You About Anger
Anger looks the antagonist in your story - but that's just because you haven't had your Chapter 54 moment.
An IFS Therapist Reacts: Inside Out 2
As an IFS Therapist, I watched Inside Out 2 like a documentary. Pixar captured what IFS therapy reveals: every emotion, even the messy ones, has a role. Here’s why true harmony means giving all your parts a voice—and what Riley’s story teaches us about integration.
In-Person vs Online Therapy: Which Should You Choose?
Hello to all my underpaid, overworked family project managers. Here’s what your internal debate about online vs. in-person therapy tells me: you’re flirting with the idea of finally prioritizing yourself. I mean, why else would you search for “in-person therapist near me” when you could have just as easily looked up “online therapist in Missouri,” right?
What Is IFS Therapy?
Feeling caught between numbing out and lashing out? Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy goes beneath the surface of overwhelm and frustration to help you reclaim calm and control. Discover how IFS uncovers the layers of your inner world, empowering you to break free from burnout and find clarity without needing to “fix” yourself.
Beyond Trauma: How Therapy Helps Everyday Women with Everyday Problems
Thinking therapy is only for trauma? Think again. Therapy isn’t just for crises—it’s for everyday women dealing with everyday problems. Whether you’re overwhelmed by family demands, emotionally checked out at work, or just going through the motions, therapy is your space to breathe, reset, and stop pretending everything’s fine when it’s not. You deserve support long before the breaking point hits.
