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Making the Invisible, Visible
If therapy and Fight Club have a common thread, it's their first rule: don't talk about it. This code works wonders if you're in the loop, but it's less helpful when you're on the sidelines, contemplating whether or not to step into the ring.
Think of these articles as your insider's guide to therapy.
I'll offer you a candid view of my work as a therapist, without sacrificing the sacredness of my client's confidentiality. Like your favorite reality TV show, we'll delve into the highs, lows, and 'pour-the-red-wine' moments of life for women in their 30s and 40s.
I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible world of therapy for women who think their struggles aren't "significant enough", one blog post at a time.
In-Person vs Online Therapy: Which Should You Choose?
Hello to all my underpaid, overworked family project managers. Here’s what your internal debate about online vs. in-person therapy tells me: you’re flirting with the idea of finally prioritizing yourself. I mean, why else would you search for “in-person therapist near me” when you could have just as easily looked up “online therapist in Missouri,” right?
Beyond Trauma: How Therapy Helps Everyday Women with Everyday Problems
Thinking therapy is only for trauma? Think again. Therapy isn’t just for crises—it’s for everyday women dealing with everyday problems. Whether you’re overwhelmed by family demands, emotionally checked out at work, or just going through the motions, therapy is your space to breathe, reset, and stop pretending everything’s fine when it’s not. You deserve support long before the breaking point hits.
Why Paying Attention to Overwhelm and Exhaustion is Critical
It’s a darkly ironic circular problem – you’re too exhausted to give any space or energy to addressing your exhaustion. So, let me help by telling you in plain English – you need to ask for help.
#selfcare is a Scam
Like most things in life, self-care is totally relative. It’s the intention behind, motivation for, and the result of an activity that determines whether or not something is self-care. The best self-care activities are things that either move us toward where we want to be or, when we’re happy with where are, help us stay there.
2020 Sucks
Whenever tragedy strikes or tough times fall, we say things like “We’re all in this together” or “We’re all in the same boat.” But if we’re honest, we are NOT all in the same boat – and we all know it. And, it's your well-being that matters, not the scale of your problems.
On Self-Care and Why February Sucks
Historically, February is always the hardest month of the year for me. Despite this being a yearly pattern, I always find myself mystified each February as to why I am feeling so awful.
Places for St. Louis Professionals to Practice Self-Care
As an IFS Counselor in St. Louis, MO, I've had the privilege of working with some truly inspiring professional women. They are the go-getters, the achievers, the ones who make balancing a high-powered career, family, and social life look effortless. But beneath this veneer of perfection, there’s often a deeper story – one of self-neglect self-forgetfulness, and detrimental self-sacrifice. Sure, they might fit in the occasional treat like actually baking for their kid’s school bake sale or a quick catch-up at a happy hour - maybe they even sneak in a luxurious facial at The Only Facial in St. Charles once a year. However, what I've noticed is that real, deep-rooted, self-attuned self-care – the kind that nurtures the soul and aligns with their innermost needs – tends to be overlooked.
